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Thursday, March 5, 2026
Your scope isn’t big enough for the next level? Here’s how you fix it.
The Matrix is Everywhere. Here's the Loophole You Were Never Meant to Find.
The matrix isn’t being a slave to “the system” like most people think.
It’s the world you live in inside of your head. The most powerful idea that taught me this came from essayist Anaïs Nin:
We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.
It is true that everyone is trapped inside the Matrix just like the movie said. But what’s misunderstood is that our mind creates the Matrix, which means it’s not some conspiracy theory run by the government or elites.
The matrix in your head runs everything, and unless you escape it, you will continue down a path you don’t want and won’t be able to change course. Carl Jung says “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”
Think about that for a moment. If your unconscious is running the show, then every goal you’ve failed to reach, every relationship that fell apart, every opportunity you didn’t take — none of it was bad luck. It was programming. And the terrifying part is you wrote the code yourself.
The unconscious is controlling you. It’s creating the matrix that is your prison. Here’s how to escape and set your mind free, so you can experience personal freedom.
The quiet art of thinking has been lost
This is the crux of the issue.
If your life is controlled by your mind, then the simple answer is to use your mind better. But most people aren’t in control of their minds anymore.
Their smartphone hijacked their attention. Then AI allowed people to outsource all of their thinking to a machine that’s “supposedly” smarter than them. So the modern human can’t control their mind.
The sad part is they don’t even know they lost control.
AI and phones are so deeply embedded into society that the logical excuse is “AI/phones are making me smarter.” Or “It’s how I run my business.” The tools are necessary to live, but when you use them and simultaneously stop thinking, they begin to own you.
The answer isn’t to go back to fax machines. No. It’s to start thinking again.
Over the years I’ve known many people who went to silent retreats. It’s where you leave all technology behind, eat a vegetarian diet, live in nature, and don’t talk for 7-10 days.
A friend of mine went to one. By the end he had multiple profound insights about his life. Some of them he considers to be world-changing.
Was this an accident? No.
When we turn off technology, spend time in nature, stop the chattering mind, and stay silent, the information that comes to us is deeper, more insightful, and higher quality.
Before you can ever escape the matrix your mind created, you first must create periods of silence for it to be possible.
How a hidden force makes decisions for you
You think you’re in control. You’re not.
The puppet master isn’t some secret illuminati or conspiracy theory. Nope. It’s your stories. Every decision and every belief you have is controlled by a story. Those stories are past experiences that become the rational for why you believe what you do.
A guy the other day said to me:
“Posting on social media will get me fired.”
When I drilled deeper, it turned out his co-worker got fired for being violently racist on Twitter. So he took that story and formed a belief that social media gets you fired from your job. This, of course, is not true. But the story became the evidence he used when he was asked to decide if he would post on social media.
His mind was already made up.
Tony Robbins says: “The only thing holding you back from doing what you really want is the excuses you keep telling yourself about why you can’t have it.”
These excuses don’t appear as silly, made-up lies. They appear as perfectly logical stories. To transcend your current circumstances you must delete the old stories and write new ones. Tony says “Change your story, change your life.”
Only way to do that is to:
Write down all the stories you have that drive your decisions.
Commit to writing new stories.
Go out and have new experiences that turn into new stories.
The sad part is most people are driven by stories they unconsciously collected in childhood, and they’re unwilling to change in any form. So the matrix in their head hijacks every good thing they could of had, and they don’t know why.
A series of tiny labels that control your trajectory in life
Your identity shapes you. And you knew that already.
But what’s forgotten is your identity is just a bunch of labels. “I’m a parent” or “I’m a scientist” or “I’m a survivor”… are just labels. You aren’t one thing. You can be multiple things. You can be a scientist today and a banker tomorrow.
People get trapped by these labels. They become married to them till death do us part.
Once you decide to own a label, it’s hard to give it up. Worse, we think when we change a label our friends and family are watching and will judge us. The reality is nobody gives a sh*t and it’s normal for humans to cycle through labels.
A label is really a set of constraints. It’s putting yourself into a box that becomes your coffin if you’re not careful. And often it’s letting labels force a set of outside rules on you which only suppresses you more so you’re easier to control.
The only way to stop labels trapping you inside the matrix that runs in your head is to refuse to accept labels. Don’t allow people to label you. And don’t label yourself. Remain fluid like water. Try to become label-less.
I spent years calling myself a writer. It sounds harmless. But ‘writer’ secretly meant I couldn’t be an entrepreneur, a speaker, or an investor because those weren’t what writers do. Most writers are starving artists and are the worst type of people to model.
The day I dropped the label I stopped asking ‘what would a writer do here?’ and started asking ‘what do I actually want?’ The difference was immediate.
The prison of the mind can get far worse
Your mind can be trapped in the matrix, but it can get worse.
Writer J. Krishnamurti explains:
“Tradition becomes our security, and when the mind is secure it is in decay.”
The risk isn’t just that your mind’s programming is controlling your outcomes in life. The risk is your mind is actually in a state of rapid decay. When your mind decays you can’t function properly and end up in survival mode.
This is why being secure is such a pandem!c of epic proportions. It’s why the myth of job security is wreaking havoc on humans.
The need to be secure is the drop of arsenic you’re putting in your morning coffee every day. The goal isn’t to be secure. It’s to be able to deal with uncertainty, so when chaos comes, you can still function.
All the desire for comfort and security just programs your mind to get weaker and weaker until all it takes is a manager or family friend to shout at you, and now you’re taking a year off due to “stress.”
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The curse of being highly intellectual
The illusion of the modern human is that they truly think. Not really.
Most ppl don’t really think. They rearrange cached thoughts until they feel smart. True thinking is rare because it’s metabolically expensive (just like thinking models are computationally expensive) – signulll
This is why it doesn’t feel good to think because it drains your body and mind of energy. It feels better to outsource it to AI. Intellectualism teaches us to take existing thoughts we learned at university and just keep rearranging them.
On the surface, this shuffling of musical chairs feels like learning, intelligence, and thinking, but really, it’s just mental ma$turbation because there’s no new input.
Most “smart people” fail because intelligence is a protection strategy.
It is how they avoid risk, avoid rejection, avoid being seen trying.
They build a life where their identity depends on being right.
Real life pays the people who can be wrong repeatedly and still keep moving.
So the ranking goes like this.
Courage beats IQ.
Reps beat talent.
Social positioning beats private brilliance.
Stamina beats bursts.
Timing beats theory.
The dirty secret is that society is not a meritocracy of ideas.
It is a selection engine for people who can tolerate exposure.
High energy risk takers win because they accept humiliation as the entry fee.
A lot of very smart people do not lose because they lack capability.
They lose because they cannot metabolize failure without their self image collapsing.
They call it burnout.
It is often fear with better branding.
The other layer is incentives.
The system trained them to optimize for grades, credentials, and approval.
Then it dropped them into a world where approval is scarce, rules are hidden, and the score is money, attention, and leverage.
So they freeze.
Meanwhile the “mid” operator ships, sells, networks, compounds, and takes the upside.
The world does not belong to the smartest.
It belongs to whoever can keep stepping into the arena without needing the arena to validate them. – @_The_Prophet__ via X
Being “smart” keeps you stuck in the matrix. The true meaning of being smart is to have a fixed mindset, hold onto existing ideas, and avoid being open-minded. These are all the things that trap you. That makes it hard to escape.
Something I heard recently about being open-minded:
“The only bad view is the one you’re stuck in.” – James Clear
Being stuck in a worldview is mental suic!de.
It’s why politics messes up minds. Ideology and religion often do it too. The goal isn’t to have a fixed worldview. It’s to be open to the idea that two worldviews can exist at the same time and both have value.
F. Scott Fitzgerald said it better than I can: “The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in the mind at the same time, and still retain the ability to function.”
If you read that quote many times you realize there are very few people (probably zero) who pass this test. They simply can’t fathom that left and right politics could be wrong at the same time. Or that Buddhism and Christianity might simultaneously hold both good and bad ideas.
Their brains just explode if they’re not allowed to pick a side.
Because picking a side is comfortable. The world seems to make sense when you do. But unless you get good at dancing between several worldviews, you get stuck in the matrix and aren’t able to think your way out of it. You can’t see the truth, opportunities, or solutions to your problems.
You don’t need the truth. You need to accept there are multiple conflicting truths.
You must be programmed to want things you don’t need
So far we’ve talked about internal forces. There are outside forces too.
The big outside force is to desire. Desire has been weaponized. The matrix most people operate in is controlled by making you think you need stuff you don’t need. This gives you motivation to work, which you’ll do even if you hate the work, so you can buy all these desires that are nothing more than broken promises.
The motivation is deepened because now modern desires require you to go into massive debt to afford them. The motivation of avoiding bankruptcy makes you a good little worker bee who never dares to question anything.
This debt problem creates another lens over your reality that limits your ability to think. Instead of making decisions that serve you, it becomes the norm to make decisions based on your own survival.
I wish I could tell you to stop desiring stuff that won’t make you happy. But that means turning off the internet and never watching TV again & that’s not realistic. So the solution comes down to good ol’ fashion discipline which none of us are good at.
How to reverse the psychological programming that keeps you stuck
There is an escape from the matrix operating in your head.
1. A cognitive neuroscientist’s plea for using deliberate repetition
Dr Julie Fratantoni’s research shows that repetition is what rewires the brain.
Makes sense. This is sometimes referred to as neuroplasticity, meaning your brain can change itself over time and make new connections. There’s a paradox to neuroplasticity that is overlooked according to Julie.
“Neuroplasticity doesn’t know the difference between helpful and harmful habits. It strengthens the connection either way.”
To reprogram your brain you must pay attention to what you repeat every day. If you repeat bad habits, you’ll rewire your brain to work against you. If you repeat positive habits, you’ll undo the programming that keeps a lot of people stuck in the matrix.
The repetition of positive habits is how your mind learns. The more you repeat good habits that help you exit the matrix, the more your subconscious accepts that new reality as the truth backed by the evidence of your actions and experience.
So what positive habits will help rewire your brain?
Spend time away from screens
Spend time in deliberate silence
Spend time away from news/politics
Turn off all notifications
Use meditation to return to the present
Read books instead of overconsume TikTok-style videos
Practice consuming both sides of every debate and not forming an opinion
Study history and psychology to understand where you come from
Practice daily fitness to give you the energy and body that is able to think
Work in multi-hour flow states to do the work that makes you come alive
2. Deliberately choose to challenge yourself (not like a hustle bro, though)
What keeps us stuck in the matrix is drowning in comfort.
The brain can’t grow and adapt if it’s wrapped in pillows and a warm doona. Writer Kylee (Plum Pitts) explains:
Every time you avoid something uncomfortable, your brain reinforces the idea that avoidance works. It literally strengthens the pathways that make hesitation, procrastination, or excuses automatic. And every time you do the hard thing — even imperfectly — your brain is building a new pathway: this is something I can do.
Before you can escape the matrix you must make a new choice. That choice is to proactively seek out discomfort. Yes, it sounds like hustle bro p*rn and “man up ya pussy” motivation.
But if you escape the immaturity of this worldview and go deeper, you realize everything you want is on the other side of change. And change isn’t comfortable by its very nature. And if you keep choosing easy, you end up with an extremely hard life.
Only when you choose discomfort and hard goals will you see your true potential. And when you do, you’ll be pissed off. Like, in a freaking rage. The reason is because the matrix protects us from who we could be.
When we come face to face with that fact and see all the years we wasted, it can be deeply frustrating. It is what it is. The goal is to see your true potential as soon as possible. And that will happen when you do hard things, get uncomfortable, feel some stress, and deal with the feeling of uncertainty.
I wish there were another solution. There isn’t. You either interrupt society’s default programming, or the comfortable life ruins your life.
What it means to truly be alive
Most people have never experienced aliveness.
They have layers of filters placed over consciousness itself such as:
Survival mode layer
Desire-to be-rich layer
Addiction to comfort layer
Black and white opinions layer
Financial insecurity layer
Old stories layer
Labels layer
When you place all of these layers over reality, it makes the world feel like a toxic wasteland. Only when you begin to peel the layers of bullsh*t away from reality and strip back consciousness to its most basic form, do you have a glimpse of the world outside the 4 walls of the matrix.
Once you escape the matrix, you truly come alive.
You see possibility for yourself. You focus on your priorities. You’re harder to program. Your mind is harder to infect with politics. Your goals become impenetrable. This convergence — clarity, purpose, freedom — is where beauty hides.
I felt it for the first time sitting alone at 4AM with no phone, no agenda, and nothing to produce. My mind went quiet in a way I hadn’t experienced since childhood. And in that silence, I had a single thought that changed the direction of my life.
I can’t manufacture that moment for you. But I can tell you it became available the second I stopped filling every gap with noise.
Most people will never experience aliveness. But you can.
It starts with your internal psychology. It starts with new choices. It starts with you becoming a giant weirdo and pissing off normies.
Dare to live outside the matrix. Life is stunning when you do.
Wednesday, March 4, 2026
25 Powerful Paradoxes of Life
The Growth Paradox
Growth takes much longer than you expect, then happens much faster than you ever thought possible.
The best things in life come from allowing compounding to work its magic.
Growth happens gradually, then suddenly.
Slowly, then all at once.
The Intelligence Paradox
Intelligence can lead to stupidity.
Highly intelligent people are more likely to fall victim to overthinking, overplanning, or overanalyzing. They create complexity rather than doing the boring, easy, obvious thing that works.
Never let your head outsmart your common sense.
The Effort Paradox
Effortless, elegant performances are simply the result of a large volume of effortful, gritty practice.
You have to put in more effort to make something appear effortless.
Small things become big things.
The Hard Things Paradox
Doing hard things makes life easier.
When you take on voluntary struggle, you're better prepared for the involuntary struggle that inevitably enters your world.
Hard now, easy later. Easy now, hard later.
The choice is yours.
The Mastery Paradox
There's a Zen parable I love:
The teacher smiles and answers, "20 years."
Author Aldous Huxley once wrote, "The harder we try with the conscious will to do something, the less we shall succeed."
The more you press, the slower your progress.
Balanced effort creates profound results.
The Persuasion Paradox
Have you ever noticed that the most argumentative people rarely persuade anyone of anything?
Persuasive people don't argue. They observe. They listen. They ask thoughtful questions.
Argue less to persuade more.
Persuasion is an art that requires a paintbrush, not a sledgehammer.
The Failure Paradox
You have to fail more to succeed more.
Our most transformative moments of growth come from our hardest moments of failure.
Don't fear failure. Learn to fail smart and fast. Never fail the same way twice.
Always put yourself in the arena.
The Icarus Paradox
In a tale from Greek mythology, Icarus used wings crafted from wax and feathers to take off in flight and escape the island of Crete. He became emboldened by his early success, ignored his father's warnings, and flew too close to the sun, which melted the wings and sent Icarus falling to his death.
You may achieve early success with one thing, but overconfidence from that success can blind you to coming disruption.
What makes you successful can lead to your downfall.
The Knowledge Paradox
The more you know, the more you're exposed to the expanse of the unknown.
This should be empowering, not frightening.
Embrace your own ignorance. Embrace lifelong learning.
The Surgeon Paradox
Author Nassim Taleb once proposed that, if choosing between two surgeons, you should choose the one who doesn't look the part.
Appearance is often the worst indicator of competency.
The person who doesn’t look the part may have required more competence to achieve their status than the person straight out of central casting.
Never confuse looking right with being right.
The Money Paradox
You have to lose money to make money.
Every successful investor and builder has stories of the invaluable lessons from a terrible loss in their career.
Sometimes you have to pay to learn.
Always put skin in the game.
The Social Media Paradox
More connectedness makes us less connected.
Social media has created more connectedness than ever before, but we feel less connected to those right in front of us.
Disconnect to reconnect.
The Productivity Paradox
Work longer, get less done.
Parkinson's Law says that work expands to fill the time allotted for its completion. Give yourself eight hours to do something, it'll take eight hours. Give yourself one hour, you'll finish it in one.
Stop grazing on low value work.
Work like a lion instead. Sprint. Rest. Repeat.
The Shrinking Paradox
You may need to shrink before you can grow.
Growth is never linear. To reach the higher summit, you may need to climb down from the current one.
Normalize short-term subtraction that creates long-term addition.
One step back, two steps forward is a recipe for success.
The Opportunity Paradox
Take on less to accomplish more.
Success doesn't come from saying yes to everything that comes your way. It comes from saying no to the things that don't matter so that you have space for the things that do.
Every yes is a no to something else.
Your time is finite. Protect it.
The Fear Paradox
The thing you fear the most is often the thing you most need to do.
Fears, when avoided, become limiters.
The most successful people run toward what scares them. They treat fear as a magnet for their energy.
The growth you seek is hidden in the fears you avoid.
The Boredom Paradox
Boredom sparks creativity.
Your most interesting, captivating ideas come during periods of boredom.
On a walk. In the shower. In the car. You're bored, your mind wanders, your thoughts mingle, and creative insight strikes.
Make time to be bored.
The Solomon Paradox
King Solomon was known as the wisest man who ever lived. But unfortunately, that legendary wisdom did not extend to his own life. He had 700 wives, 300 concubines, a growing obsession with wealth, and a kingdom that collapsed within a generation of his death.
King Solomon was great at giving advice, but bad at taking his own.
We tend to reason more wisely about others’ problems than ours. We see our friends' situations with perfect clarity, but our own through a fog of emotion, ego, and fear.
The wisdom you offer others is inside you. Always ask yourself, "What would I tell my best friend to do?"
Then, take your own advice.
The Speed Paradox
You have to slow down to speed up.
Slowing down allows you to restore your energy. You notice things you previously missed. You're more deliberate with your actions. You focus on the points of highest leverage.
Slow is smooth and smooth is fast.
The Beginner Paradox
You have to start weak to end strong.
The most successful people I know love the feeling of being an embarrassing beginner. They thrive on the newness. They love diving into something with child-like curiosity. It's a positive signal.
Every master started out as a novice.
Embrace that embarrassment of being a beginner. It's the cost of entry to the life you want.
The Looking Paradox
Stop looking to find what you're looking for.
Ever notice that when you're looking for something, you rarely find it? Stop looking. What you're looking for may find you.
Applies equally to love, business, happiness, and life.
The Talking Paradox
Talk less to say more.
If you want your words and ideas to be heard, start by talking less and listening more. You'll find more power in your words.
The Control Paradox
More controlling, less control.
We've all seen this as children, partners, or parents. The most controlling often end up with the least control.
Humans are wired for independence. The tighter you grip, the more slips through.
Embody the things you want to see in others. Influence and empower, don't control.
The Advice Paradox
Taking more advice can leave you less well-prepared.
Harsh Truth: Most advice sucks. It's well-intentioned, but it's dangerous to use someone else's map of reality to navigate yours.
Build your own filters. Take the signal. Skip the noise.
The Death Paradox
Know your death to live your life.
The impermanence of life is precisely what makes it so beautiful.
Embrace your own mortality. Time is your most precious asset. Treat it accordingly.
Sunday, February 22, 2026
The 47 Laws of Monumental Leadership
1. They listen even better than they speak.
2. They really care about growing people.
3. They don’t mind giving away the credit.
4. They understand that the bigger the dream the more important the team.
5. They are generous.
6. They are kind.
7. They are unconquerably strong.
8. They get that until their mission becomes their obsession, their business will never grow into a movement.
9. They build excellent family lives, knowing that a fortified home base is essential to peak productivity and elite resilience at work.
10. They are industry disrupters, enthusiastically bringing new products and services to their field that change the game.
11. They have brave visions that cause others to call them weird, strange and crazy.
12. They are monomaniacally focused on their big bet rather than interested in every shiny toy opportunity that comes along.
13. They are honest—understanding that integrity is everything and that a 20 year good reputation could be lost in 20 seconds of poor judgement.
14. They spend a lot of time alone because that’s where the most sensational ideas come from.
15. They are extremely physically fit because weak health is a massive vulnerability.
16. They are never too busy building the business to study their financials.
17. They are brilliant at hiring top producers and this brilliance was born through the failed hiring of terrible producers.
18. They are agile so when things get tough they swiftly pivot to not only survive but prosper.
19. They understand that success breeds complacency and—because of this—they stay hungry, creative and hypervigilant to the threats that could knock off their golden crown.
20. They build superb systems because systems ensure consistency of quality.
21. They are monumentally productive by becoming masters of the polite [yet fierce] no.
22. They are givers rather than takers.
23. They rest a lot given that the key to domain dominant performances is regularly scheduled recovery periods.
24. They care very little about the negative opinions of others because an opinion is just an opinion so why make it more than an opinion.
25. They know that when everyone around them tells them that they are amazing they are in the dangerous situation where they just might start to think they are amazing.
26. They read a ton of books. [And have huge libraries].
27. They go to a lot of learning conferences. [And take a major amount of notes].
28. They have supreme spiritual lives and have donated their lives to a cause that’s larger than themselves.
29. When they get knocked down they get back up—constantly and relentlessly and quickly. Truly.
30. They rise at dawn, gaining a gargantuan competitive advantage as well as a quiet hour to think, plan, prepare, exercise and pray.
31. They eat less food so they get more done.
32. They are constantly mentoring their people and championing the vision and values so that their teams constantly live the mission and exemplify the values.
33. They have the courage to hire slowly and fire swiftly.
34. They are on the path of mastery in their craft so they study the great ones and get a little better at what they do each and every day.
35. They not only work to improve their Mindsets, they do the emotional healing required to purify their Heartsets so that the darker emotions of anger, shame, disappointment, regret, sadness and guilt leave them—allowing for maximum creativity, productivity, prosperity and human decency.
36. They never take themselves too seriously, understanding that people who take themselves too seriously are not taken very seriously.
37. They love winning. And are much more keen to construct a dynasty rather than simply secure a championship.
38. They are humble and understand that masters always think like beginners.
39. They are extraordinarily curious and, as a result, are regularly asking good questions as well as asking “why” a lot.
40. They understand that if they are talking—in frustration—about a difficult employee to their spouse each evening, it’s a clear sign it’s time to (respectfully) let that teammate go.
41. They lead without a title, deriving their power and organizational influence via their character, performance, results and optimism versus from the position they have on the organizational chart.
42. They get that the team that breaks bread together is a team that stays together.
43. They write in a journal often knowing that clarity breeds mastery and writing in a journal is thinking on paper.
44. They are absolutely fanatical with getting the tiniest of details perfect.
45. They build legendary cultures because competition can copy the products and services of your business but they will never be able to clone your soul.
46. They smile a lot.
47. They lean into the things that make them feel scared because greatness comes from the consistent doing of hard things and the discomfort of growth is always to be preferred over the illusion of safety.