Your nervous system is running your career

 

A few weeks ago, I was listening to an interview with Miss Excel - Kat Norton - the woman who turned dancing with spreadsheets into an eight-figure business.   But what stopped me wasn’t the business model or the virality.   It was this one line she said almost casually: "I train my nervous system more than I train my business skills." I paused the episode.   Because as I've been growing my own business, I've been asking myself the same question everyone asks when they're headed toward a new level: What do I need to learn next? What strategy do I need to master? What skill am I missing?   And I had the same thoughts when I was working on becoming a VP. But the deeper I go, the clearer it becomes: The next level usually isn't blocked by your skillset. It's blocked by your capacity.   The capacity to stay grounded when everything feels uncertain. The capacity to handle pressure without shutting down. The capacity to make decisions even when your stomach drops. The capacity to take risks when your entire body is telling you to play it safe.   In other words… Your nervous system decides what you do long before your brain ever gets a vote. And if you don't train it, it will run the show for you.   When Your Nervous System Takes Over Let me take you back to one of the most humbling moments of my career.   Years ago, I was leading a high-stakes meeting I had prepared for weeks. Slides rehearsed. Talking points memorized. Every detail under control.   I opened strong. Confident. After all I was prepared.   Then halfway through… something shifted.   My heart started racing. My throat tightened. My vision narrowed. And suddenly my mind went blank.   No words. No voice. Just… nothing.   For 30 to 40 seconds - which felt like an hour - I stood there frozen while a room of executives waited for me to speak.   I had rehearsed every scenario except that one.   People asked if I was okay. I nodded, even though I wasn’t.   Somehow I pulled myself together and finished the presentation, but the truth is: My nervous system had hijacked me.   And it wasn’t the only time.   There were meetings where I stayed silent even though I had an idea that could have changed the conversation. There were senior leaders I wanted to connect with… but my body shut down before I could reach out. There were roles I was absolutely qualified for… but fear convinced me not to apply.   And afterwards, I’d watch someone else get the job and think, that could have been me. I wasn't being held back by my capability. I was being held back by my biology.   Fight. Flight. Freeze. Repeat. Here's the part I was never taught: Your nervous system reacts before you do.   Long before your rational brain says, "You've got this," your survival system is scanning for threats - real or imagined - and choosing one of three options: Fight: tension, defensiveness, over-talking, sharp responses Flight: avoidance, overworking, perfectionism, staying busy Freeze: blank mind, shaky voice, silent in meetings   Sound familiar?   This is why you can be brilliant and still choke in a moment that matters.   It's why your voice shakes before tough conversations. Why your mind goes blank when a senior leader asks a question. Why you procrastinate the thing you care about most. Why visibility feels terrifying even though you want more of it.   It's not weakness. It's not lack of discipline. It's not "imposter syndrome." It's an untrained nervous system doing its job a little too well.   And here's the irony: The more you avoid discomfort, the more the nervous system learns that the discomfort is dangerous.   Avoidance reinforces fear. Exposure rewires it.   So today, we're going deeper into how you actually build that capacity to prepare yourself for the next level.

Why This Matters Even More the Higher You Go As you rise in your career, the pressure doesn't go away - it amplifies. More visibility. More uncertainty. More responsibility. More eyes on your decisions. More moments where you're expected to show leadership even when you're not sure yourself.   And every one of these moments is a nervous system moment.   If your body interprets pressure as danger, you'll do what you've always done: shut down, play small, delay decisions, avoid conversations, or retreat into the comfort of "being busy."   But if you train your nervous system - even a little - you build the capacity to stay grounded when things get hard.   You speak up instead of staying silent. You take risks instead of playing safe. You handle difficult conversations without spiraling. You show up as the leader you actually are, not the one fear tells you to be.   This is why doing hard things matters. This is why growth requires discomfort. And this is why we need to talk about the Nervous System Olympics - your new training ground for expanding what you can hold.   The Nervous System Olympics These 3 simple trainings are designed to help you expand your capacity without overwhelming your system. Think of it like interval training for your emotional resilience.   1. The Sit With It Minute When discomfort shows up - anxiety, frustration, fear, embarrassment - sit with it for one full minute. No fixing. No distracting. No numbing. Just notice the sensation.   This is emotional strength training. You're teaching your system that discomfort is part of your work, which means your tolerance expands. And in high-stakes moments at work, this matters - because the leader who can accept discomfort will thrive in chaos instead of falling apart.   Want the advanced version? After you sit and just feel the feelings you can label them. The nervous system loves ambiguity. Naming what’s happening immediately reduces activation.   “I’m in freeze.” “I’m in flight right now.” “This is a spike, not a problem.” Once you name it, the body calms. Because you’re showing it the one thing it needs most: awareness.   2. The Story Flip When your chest tightens, stomach drops, or your heart races your brain interprets it as danger.   "My heart is racing - something's wrong." "My chest feels tight - I can't do this." "My stomach dropped - this is too risky." Try flipping the story: "Nothing is wrong. My body is preparing me." “I’m not nervous, I’m excited”   Same sensation. Different meaning. Instantly more capacity.   Performers, athletes, and elite operators use this technique for a reason. It turns physiological chaos into usable energy - and that's exactly what you need when you're speaking in a meeting, taking a stand, or leading through uncertainty.   3. The Future-You Check-In Before reacting, ask one question: "What would the version of me I'm becoming do right now?"   Not the stressed version. Not the scared version. Not the tired version. The future version. The grounded, decisive, capable leader you're growing into.   This reframes the entire moment. And when you practice this consistently, your nervous system starts to follow the identity you've chosen - not the one fear is trying to protect.

Your Next Level Requires This Work Your nervous system is the bridge between the life you have and the life you want. The bigger the goals, the more capacity you need to hold the pressure that comes with them.   You don't have to overhaul your life. You don't need a complicated routine. You just need to strengthen the part of you that decides how you show up when it matters.   Three practices. A few minutes a day. A little discomfort on purpose. That's it.   Your next-level self isn't waiting for you to be fearless. Just regulated enough to move anyway.